i'm bored and i cant find anything to do except chatting in msn with Aidil. okay how cool is that? nasib baik kau ade dil, kalau takkkk.... aku raseee ntah laa. HAHA!
and hello bf! i'm still awake! heh. seeee youu soon darlingg! =)
to devilz, insyallah i'll join you guys k!
daaaaaaaaa~
`fydah.
the day before i slept ard 7am till 9.45am. after which i had a short nap at 2.45pm till 4.45pm. and last night, i tucked in early at 10.30pm and woke up at 3am. after which i continued sleeping again at 6.30am till 8am today. baaaaah.
i really need to start forcing myself to sleep early and prevent from waking up in the middle of the night. my eyebag takes up like a quarter of my weight already. hurhur, like real. and hari raya is like in 2 wks time and after which school reopens. i guess, friends and relatives will be seeing a walking zombie celebrating hari raya and going to school in a few weeks time. urgh. i need cucumbers please.
sent grandpapa for a check-up at alexandra hospital earlier on. i was already losing blood, and the doctor made me wait for so long. hahs. daddy wanted to get a set of meal from mcdonalds for me but i told him not to cos it would be sucha a disgrace to actually eat in public during ramadhan. since alexandra hospital is located next to queensway shopping centre, i asked my dad to accompany me to queensway to window shop. and guess what? in not even half an hr, i've got lots of things in mind.
1st: i wanted that nokia E65 phone so badly and it's on promotion now.
2nd: adidas bag
3rd: adidas slipper.
and the list goes on...
might be going geylang later on with mum and dad. hopefully, there wouldnt be any difficulties in searching for my raya costume.
take caree darlings and friends. =)
`Fydah.
i only turned in around 7am earlier on. and look at the time now.. it's only 10.46am. Okay, i know everyone should be awake by then. But it isnt for me. Cos i'm suffering from insomnia and having sleeping disorders.
yeah, it could be true that there's so much thing in my head now. but why bother when someone just cant even be bothered right? so fydah, take a chill pill.
okay dil, i've received like a few reservations for you. i didnt expect you to be that famous! HAHA! okay dil, takmo kembang eh. aku smackdown kau baru tahu! haha. so, you should thank me for leading you a step closer to becoming a star. -_-" so to mean, lepas swensen.. seoul garden plak ke.. HAHAHA!
okay people, i'm talking nonsense simply because i dont have enough sleep. but actually, whatever i said earlier on were all true. baaaaah. aku kau merepek fyd. nvm nvm. let fydah have her b-e-a-u-t-y sleeep now. =)
daaaaaa~
Now let's start. This guy here is a friend of Hakim, eh dil? HAHA! whatever it is, i know he's Acap's friend. Shall i be nice or evil eh? hmmm.. kay laa.. kasik chance uh. He's nice yet irritating. and will only go searching for me in MSN when he's bored. and so do i! HAHA! One unique thing about him is.. he got a hour-glass figure! HAHA! cool eh? sexy banget! and he claimed that he's sexier than i am. okay, how cool is that? but still dil, i'm wayyyy slimmer than you. So to mean, i'm sexier eh? HAHA!
Okay, i'm done. Anyone who's interested with Aidil, please call.. 1800- I - WANT - AIDIL.
`Fydah.
Conflict Resolution & Mediation
You may have come across the terms conflict resolution, mediation and restorative intervention in the workplace. What they mean is a way of dealing with any conflict in a better way and reaching a resolution which all parties are happy with.
There are many responses to conflict including:
- Talking about it
- Physical violence
- Ignoring the problem
- Forcing a resolution
- Arguing
- Insults.
The problem with most of these responses is that the outcome generally isn't one that both parties will be happy with.
Conflict resolution and restorative intervention are a series of steps which can be used in a relationship to enable both partners to find a mutually acceptable solution to conflict and to restore good terms. It does not focus on blame but looks for agreement that something has gone wrong and develops a way forward. It usually involves a mediator who is able to see both sides, ask questions and intervene if necessary.
It can be used in different circumstances, but is increasingly commonly used to try to avoid divorce or try to come to an agreement regarding the settlement of shared affairs after divorce. These are the steps that a mediator would go through with you:
- Identify positions (what are each of you really saying)
- Learn more about the true needs and desires of each partner
- Ask clarifying questions for more information
- Brainstorm possible solutions
- Discuss how each solution would affect each of you and figure out possible compromises
- Agree upon a solution
- Implement solutions
- Re-evaluate solutions, if necessary
Organisations such as Relate use these techniques and allow you to develop a new way of dealing with issues in your relationship. You can also get help from a specialist mediator or counsellor in your area. Once you get used to using this process you can generally manage it yourself without using an intermediary.
RELATIONSHIP HANDLING SKILLS
For the upcoming entries, i'll be sharing with you guys 5 steps to how you can solve your relationship problems. I came upon these while i was reading some relationship articles. I thought that it would be useful to some of you out there. So yaaa.. hopefully, this will help you aye.
Relationship Review
Carrying out a Relationship Review allows you to analyse the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship on a non emotional level and assess the future potential and concerns. It is important that you are as honest as you can be during this process.
Strengths and weaknesses can refer to your own personal strengths and weaknesses or the strengths and weaknesses within your relationship. One of your strengths might be that you are a good listener. A weakness could be that you always have to win arguments. Potential is about the opportunities available to you to strengthen your relationship. For example, an opportunity could be that you are having a two week holiday together which will give you much needed personal time together. A concern is a threat which could harm your relationship, for example, an existing medical condition that could develop into illness. So how do you carry out a Review?
- Take a piece of A4 paper and divide into 4 parts or use our template. Write one of the four headings (Strengths, Weaknesses, Potential and Concerns) in each box.
- Work through each box thinking about how they apply to you. In strengths - do you have good communication in your relationship? Do you have a good sex life? Do you spend time together doing things as a couple? Do you have a similar financial outlook?
- When thinking about weaknesses, consider - do you argue a lot? Do you flirt with other people? Do you still take care over your appearance?
- When looking at potential think about - time you are due to spend together alone? Retirement, how you will spend that time together? Could you spend more time together as a family? Could you develop a hobby together? Do you have common interests?
- Assess your concerns - Have you been unfaithful? Has your or your partner's appearance or behaviour recently and radically changed? Do you have different views when it comes to commitment, sex or children? Are there any threats of job loss? Do you have medical problems that could develop?
After you have carried out the Review, the final stage is to make a plan and decide what changes you need to make. Can you resolve any problems so that you can carry on together or should you decide to leave the relationship? The plan should give you an opportunity to celebrate the good things, to work on relationship and personal weaknesses and to do your best to neutralise impending concerns. This proactive approach to your relationship helps you to keep more in control of your life. Depending on individual issues within your relationship you can find further help in the next sections.
More to come......
Maya. Fyd. Yunie. Mas. Kak Az 
Mas & Yunie, i sayang you all gila babs la! .
And I supposed everyone has already dropped by Yunie's blog where you can see the gifts we made for our individual bfs. I have yet to upload the pictures cos I wanted to surprise Hakim. And since I've given him the gift, now i shall upload the pictures okay?
[For more pictures, click Despite the fact that i'm hurt, i still miss you so much. Wanting to hear your voice, longing for your embracement. I've always been looking forward to weekends to see you. Whatsmore, this weekend which is gonna be extra special for you.
Baby, I'm sorry for I cant make you happy by showering you with all the things that you want. But I promise that I would make you happy by showering you with the things that you need always. You're turning a year older on Monday. Therefore, I always hope that you'll be much wiser than you are now darling. And of course, I would want to lead you and see you mould into a much better person than you are already now. Insyallah.
Hopefully, tomorrow would be a better day.
`Fydah.
She's the one on the far right! Yup! I know i've wished you earlier in the afternoon, but still.. i dont feel completed wishing you without shouting out my wishes out here in my blog! heh.
So again, HAPPY 36TH BIRTHDAY DEAREST AUNTY-IN-LAW! May all your wishes do come true. Semoga dipanjangkan umur dan dimurahkan rezeki! amin..
Your lovely niece,
Nora. 
List out your top 5 b'day presents u wish for:
3. Nokia E65 (Red)
Are you responsibe to or for your partner?
By: Tim Connor
You are responsible TO your partner but not FOR him or her. You are responsible only FOR yourself and your partner is responsible for them self. What exactly does this mean? You are not responsible for your partner’s feelings, reactions, attitudes, emotions and outcomes. You are responsible to your partner—to love them, accept them, help them, support them and empower them but you are not responsible for their emotional stuff.
This problem takes place when one person attempts to be responsible TO their partner, but their partner wants them to be responsible FOR them.
There is a difference between sympathy and empathy. Sympathy is feeling sorry for someone – getting right down in their problems with them. Empathy is understanding what a person is going through but not getting embroiled in it with them. Sympathy can cause people to become dependent while empathy contributes to their personal growth and maturity.
Many times, your partner may want you to feel sorry for them, to have sympathy for them and their circumstances. If you do this, you may only be contributing to the continuation of their problem by slowing or even preventing their own personal growth. I understand that if your partner wants one thing, sympathy, and you give them something else, empathy, that this can lead to conflict, tension and a stressful relationship – if this process is not handled carefully and lovingly.
Understanding their needs and helping them grow through them is not always easy, but in the end it is a far better tactic for the long-term health and success of the relationship.
So what’s the answer?
You are responsible for your own well being and mental health. You are not responsible for your partner’s. Please don’t misunderstand me here. I am not suggesting that you disengage from your partner’s issues, only that your role in a relationship is to become and remain as emotionally healthy as you can and to be a supportive and loving partner. Sometimes when you continue to help people over and over again you stop helping them. I am talking here about detachment not disengagement. Detachment is about letting your partner take full responsibility for their actions, emotions and outcomes. Disengagement means you stop caring and show nothing but contempt and apathy.
Another contributor to this critical issue is the need for people to feel in control of their own emotions. When you let your partner emotionally manipulate you in the hope of avoiding conflict, you will feel used and out of control. This is not a good place to be in relation to your ‘own life’.
When you let your partner determine or control your emotional reactions, feelings or behaviors you are essentially giving over control of your life to them. This is not an empowered place to be. Just because your partner wants to argue doesn’t mean you have to join in. Just because your partner is upset by something that happened at work doesn’t mean you have to be upset too.
It’s your choice – Take control of yourself; your feelings, reactions, emotions and behavior or give it up to your partner. Sound harsh? Not meant to.
The best thing you can do for your partner and your relationship is to help them understand that your role is not to resolve their problems for them, hindering their personal growth. They must understand that for the relationship to be healthy, both parties have to be healthy. If only one of you is mature, in control of yourself and emotionally stable, it will be difficult to have a healthy, mature and stable relationship.
Everyone moves through life with their own personal baggage and personal lessons to learn. To be responsible to people is to not interfere with what they need to learn so they can move on. To be responsible for people inhibits them from liberating themselves.
Apart from all that, I MISS HAKIM!
Met bf earlier on to accompany him to beach rd to get his camp stuffs before he left for Brunei in 32 days time. Then we bumped into his friend, Johan, and his mum and elder sis. Seriously, i dont know if i should salam the mum and the sis cos both doesnt seem to smile at me.. and i felt weird la. Like they dont want to layan me like that. urgh. But nvm la. Maybe his mum's and sis's mouth got ulcer like me that's why they never smile. But still, i put an effort to smile lor! haha. Kkay dah fyd, diam.
Then after buying all the stuffs, we bumped into my friend, Ayul. I thought of approaching but then he seemed to walk away so tak jadi lor. And i was so dumb to msged him when i know he havent pay his bills. baaah. again, nvm! But before that eh, i wanna tell you guys something. Everytime i go out with bf, he usually bumped into his friends. when i asked, he said.." oh well.. kate famous!" okay, menyampah!
After which we took the train to town. And we alighted at city hall, and decided to bounce back from marina to orchard. Then, we saw Johan and family boarding the same train and same cabin at Raffles Place. Best kan? chet. Then before we alighted, bf salam his mum.. and and i was confused again.. seriously. if i salam, afraid she'd say.." tadik tak salam, skrg baru nak salam." haha! aiyer, sorry la aunty. seriously, i'm way too confused. THEN! guess who i bumped into?? ahhh.. that short shorty buddy of mine! haha. yes yes, SHAFIRA! hurhur. She was so arrogant la can! She pretended not to see me when actually she saw me the minute she's in the train i guess. (okay, aku macam paham) but whatever it is, she's arrogant la! i dont care. u watch out hor ketot! haha!
Me and bf strolled ard Heeren, Far East and so on. And bf wanted to take pictures la.. but i cant. Cos i cannot smile laa. aiyerr. the ulcer is killing me! We break our fast at Taka's KFC. Super full i tell you! And that HotDevils drumlets were soooo tempting andd spicy laa! it hurts my ulcer more! grr. I kept complaining to bf that i really neeed the toilet to poo-poo. But still, i cannot poo-poo at the public toilets. Home's toilet is the best la! But, till now i havent poo-poo. I can still blog. baaah. HAHA! cos i cannot wait to share with youuu one hilariousss story!
We were on the train on the way home. I saw this lady wearing this small sling bag which i think is nice la. Then i asked bf.. " U tak nampak bag gini pat KL? " ( you nvr see this kind of bag in KL hur?) Bf replied.. " Ntah, tak ukur.." (Dont know, i nvr measure..) HAHAHAHAHA! sorry eh bf. but but if my bf tag kan saying "padahal de yang tak dgr.."( you hear wrongly lah ) or whatsoever laa.. dont believe k! he just want to cover2 only. heh.
To wrap up, it was sucha a wonderful day today.. after daysss of slacking at homeee, finally i'm out! heh.
Dil & Fik, MONDAY HOR! dont forget hor. and sape2 nak join, sila kan.. heh.
`Fydah.
Making Time For Your Relationships
By: Royane Real
Most of us today are very, very busy.
Many of us are trying to juggle a lot of different responsibilities. We try to keep a household going, and try to have a good relationship with our mate at home. At the same time we have to keep track of all our kids and their various activities, while also trying to do a full time job outside the home. We may have aging parents who take up more and more of our time.
If we’re younger, we may be juggling full time classes at school while also doing a part time job and trying to have a social life. We may be doing volunteer work in the community. The demands on our time never seem to end, and often it’s hard to take a few moments out of our busy lives to decide what our priorities should really be.
Many of us today are on the go all the time. We rush from appointment to appointment until we collapse exhausted.
One place that many of us have cut back is on spending time unwinding with our friends. We often feel guilty just at the thought of taking time to hang around. Spending time just relaxing with friends seems like a luxury we can't afford.
Those lazy days when life seemed to be about spending quality time with your family and friends seem to belong to a different century.
Often we try to juggle two or three things at once, so we can get everything done. So we may be calling our friends while we are at work, and when we are with our friends and family, we’re also trying to get caught up on our emails and checking in at the office. We may be talking to one person in front of us while emailing another.
And many of us are very proud of how many things we seem to be able to do at one time, without realizing that we are not fully present for any of them.
Many of us are not fully present at our jobs and we’re not fully present with our families and friends. Instead we are often in a trance induced by the fact we are trying to be everywhere at once. We can use our busyness to distance ourselves from close human contact.
And all our modern technology such as email, cell phones, and text messaging and tiny music players and portable videos seem to distract our attention from the present moment more and more.
Even though all the new technological toys we have today were supposed to free up our time and make us more connected, it can have an opposite effect.
When we do spend time with our families or friends, many of us are also tied to the computer, or our cell phone or we’re busy sending and receiving text messages.
How often have you been speaking to a friend on the telephone, and heard the clacking of typewriter keys in the background? Your friend may be typing up email messages to someone else at the same time he or she is talking to you. So you’re not getting his full attention, and neither is the other person.
Many of us are used to not just multi-tasking with our jobs, but also with our friends. Why give our attention to the person in front of us, when there might be a message on our computer at the same time?
A better, more exciting offer might come in any minute, on our cell phone, or in our email.
Our attention is never really where we are. Our mind is split. We’re never really committed to working when we are at work, and we’re never really present with the people we care about, because someone else is on the line. Or something else is on our mind.
When was the last time you were with someone who really paid a lot of close, personal attention to you? That made you feel like you might be a valuable human being?
When was the last time you paid close personal attention to someone else?
If you currently feel frazzled and empty, one reason may be that you have let yourself become too busy to make time for the relationships you already have. And if you don’t feel frazzled and empty, it could be that you are using your business as a way of keeping your inner emptiness hidden from yourself.
When we spend time with the people who truly love us and accept us, we have a chance to let go of our false roles. We can feel more accepted and relaxed when we are surrounded by those who care about us. We don’t need to be on the go all the time, and we don’t need to be putting on a front.
But for our relationships to have a beneficial, healing effect, we have to be fully present with people who are also fully present with us?
How many people today, living modern, busy lives, make friendship a priority? How many people make it a priority to be really present with their loved ones, instead of just being physically present, and mentally distracted?
Very often, being really present with our friends and loved ones is a victim of our busy life styles.
If the main reason you haven’t been getting together with old friends, or new friends you’d like to know better is because you’re too busy, take a good look at how you spend your time.
Compare it with your real values and priorities in life. Is your hectic lifestyle really bringing you the quality of life that you want?
Examine whether the way you are currently spending your time accurately reflects your deepest values and priorities. Make sure that you schedule adequate time for the things that are truly most important to you.
If you really want to keep friends in your life, make a space in your schedule and a space in your heart for them.
And practice the art of being fully present with the important people in your life.
guess, there goes my chance of going to ikea luh. am supposed to meet Huihui at 10.30am at khatib before we proceed to ikea, but i only got up at 10.45am. baaah. i didnt hear the alarm clock rang. was it me or there's something wrong with my hp? sheesh. and so, Huihui continued her beautiful sleep and so did i. HAHA! i was too tired and sleepy la. prolly bcos i didnt have enough sleep for 2-3 days already. so here i am blogging to ask if there's any girlfriends of mine who's free any of the days to accompany me to ikea? please.. urgh, i sound so pathetic sei. nvm.
oh! and grandpapa got discharged yesterday afternoon with a bandage on his right arm. wah! dah macam fighter sei. haha! he slept the whole day yesterday and today. was lucky that he got discharged a day before ramadhan, cos if that doesnt happen, i will be homealone which means breaking fast alone. how cool eh, breaking fast alone especially on the first day of ramadhan. heh.
next, my dad has been very irritating for the past few days. he kept on complaining that he dont wanna miss Mimpi Manis. so it's like.. when he reached the hospital, he would then chase everyone away.. so that he could go home earlier and catch Mimpi Manis. he even sang the song and danced in the hospital. can you imagine? haha! then as soon as he reached home, he would then call me and irritate me and say things like.. " nong, kau pat mane? cepattt!!! mimpi manis dah start nih! HAHAHA! " (" nong, where are you? quickk!!! mimpi manis started alreadyy! HAHAHA!" ) seee.. how irritating can he be! but still, i love my dad la! =)
i've been thinking of what to blog for the past few days.. but i couldnt think of any. maybe bcos i wasnt in the mood or just plain lazy. things have been going well btwn me and Hakim. hopefully, there wouldnt be anymore arguments after this before he left for brunei for a mth this coming october.
and to my beloved cousin, Fauzan..
good luck and all the best while serving the nation aye. baaah. i felt bad cos i didnt even get to meet you for the last time before you got enlisted on September 11th. take care bro. gonna miss you. =)
and to ALL, selamat berpuasa..
`Fydah.
Forgiving In Relationships
By: cdmohatta
In real life, law rarely forgives any wrong act. In most of the countries law is clear about punishment. We still hear a lot about forgiving in personal relationships. We are told to forgive the major blunders. We are asked to forgive and forget and continue living as if nothing happened. Does that work? To some extent yes, and to some extent no.
Most of us who have been hurt in relationship do not wish to forgive at all. The result is that we suffer from the pain all our life. We are advised to forgive so that at least we can feel peaceful. If we do not forgive, our own peace is lost forever and we suffer. Forgiveness is for us. To forgive does not always mean that the abuser can continue with the same behavior. You need not tell the abuser that you have forgiven him/her. Let them suffer for what they did. But by forgiving in your own mind, you get peace.
Relationship after forgiving - the relationship can never continue at the same level and intensity after any mistake has been made. No amount of forgiveness can ever bring the relation back.
Bringing relationship back - I have said earlier that no relationship will return to the same old level after a major mistake has been committed. This is true. But what if the partners want to bring it back to the old level? How should they proceed? In this case, the abuser should ask for forgiveness again and again. Only after the victim is satisfied, the forgiveness can become effective to the extent that relationship comes back to normal.
i will now go for your sake upon ur request. i'm sorry over what had happened. i've let out everything that i wanted to. guess, you couldn't accept what was let out. yeah, it's sucha waste. everything is a waste, a mistake to you.
and yes, i know you don't care. that's proven enough. thanks for everything. again, i'll be gone forever if that doesnt hurt you any further. great to have you around. love you.
Sorry for not replying to all the recent tags aye. Was kinda busy to reply but not to post an entry. hurhur. Urgh. whatever it is, i'll be replying to every single person who tagged here. So take a look out aye. =)
2 Sep 07, 02:58 Yunie`: where'd you extract that from. nice piece. meaningful one. btw, stay strong k babe...*hugs
Read it somewhere while surfing the net. too bored la. that's why i read articles online! haha. yeah, i will. thanks love. *HUGS*
2 Sep 07, 06:42 mas: a gd entry indeed. i loke it. well, wads past is past n let it go. start afresh n both the exes can be frens back. im close with some of my ex bfs ex gfs somemore. rare kan? huahua. nyeh
YUP! very rare indeed! hurhur. but some people simply cant. oh well, it all depends la darling. =)
2 Sep 07, 06:44 mas: ges wad? i cant sleeeep. padahal tadi kat club da tak larat nak joget agik. nw in front of my lappy while lydia is sleeping soundly. ahaar, rhyming or waaad. k, jgn lyn aku. aku da giler.
HAHA! MAS MAS! loook at the timeee!! you're still activee at this hourr! gosshh!
2 Sep 07, 12:27 Luke: missing u bby... `haiy
I miss you too darling. we'll meet up whenever possible k darling! love you! MUAHHHHS!=)
2 Sep 07, 14:03 mas: luke, aku agik rindu matey ko.. da masuk 2mingg aku tak jumpe dia tau! ahar.
HAHA! mas mas, i miss you moreee la! we'll meeet up soon k sayangg! =)
2 Sep 07, 19:05 Ayne: I like your last post.. nice & sweet... And factful true
thanks! i read it somewhere, so i've decided to share it with everyone here. take care babe. =)
2 Sep 07, 20:42 ika: Can you do me a favour? Can you provide me with the details on the cashbox tingy? im interested to go though. how much? timings? & where? thanks. get back to me soon..
Sorry, i'm not quite suree of the actual details of the cash studio karaoke box. but from what i know, weekdays 30+ for 3 heads for 3 hours. and that is from 1pm-6pm. after 6pm, the price would be diff. and there's only 2 outlets if i'm not wrong.. the one i went is next to forum, opposite hard rock. and the other one at apollo centre. =) hope this helps.
4 Sep 07, 00:41 misSYA: helloo~ happy monthsary~! glad u both going on strong. psst.. jumpe besokkk~ lol. cant wait.. nitey nite, i ngantok liaoz~
huuuuk~ thanks darlingg! *HUGS*
4 Sep 07, 01:14 linlin: it cud have been my 15th month but boos):
Yeah darling. it's okay.. be strong okays? *HUGS*
4 Sep 07, 01:15 linlin: STAY STRONG DARL!(:
i will! u too! =)
5 Sep 07, 03:35 mas: hello!! im havin insomnia i guess. i cant sleep la darrrrl.. ahaar. nth to do jus shuffle2 in my rm. baaah! heeelp.
haha! dah tahu tak bleh tdo bukannyer nak pm me tau! instead shuffle2 in the bedroom for more nearly 3 hours! haiyoo.. sampai jatuh2 sumerr. Mas mass! haha.
5 Sep 07, 03:37 mas: n yaaa.. HAPPY 16THMONTHSARYYYYY! tell man dat i love u more than how much he love u k. HAHA.
Thanks darlinggg! =) Okay2, will tell man k! haha.
5 Sep 07, 11:52 ifah: hi sweets! thanks for dropping by. i love ur blog and you
5 Sep 07, 11:53 ifah: you're so so pretty!
Hello gorgeous! i know i dah reply pat ur blog, but nvm. i'll reply again k? heee. and i love you too la, can? heee. =)
5 Sep 07, 19:36 diL: hello~ aku boring...
HELLO AIDIL! boring jer carik akuu. chet. dah lame tak nyakat kau! hurhur.
6 Sep 07, 00:59 amin: for some reason, i feel sad reading that entry..
hey, dont be! alahaii.. sorry la. didnt mean to bring back ur past tho. and please, dont stop dropping by my blog okay? haha!
6 Sep 07, 02:03huis: i was i get loved like you .. awww. hhaha.
Okay darling, seriously i dont get what you're trying to say. but nvm. i love you! haha.
To summarise, i just realised that i've been addressing way too many people my darling! haha. nvm la. i know hakim will not get jealous cos all those whom i called my darling are my girlfriends. and hakim, you know where you stand in this heart of mine k? muahs!
7 Warning Signs That She is Not Interested in You Anymore
By: Ovi Dogar
To break up a relationship is a harder decision when we talk about a long term one.
In most cases when woman is no longer interested in a relationship she doesn't want to be the one to end it. But even when she is already made the decision to break it up, she will take some time to give you some signs to prepare you, before she tells you.
If you feel that something is going wrong it is time to take a closer look at your relationship. Here are seven warning signs she is no longer interested:
1. This is probably the most classic subtle signal of all: her life become too hectic. She hasn't picked up the phone for a few days and when she does, she is busy and pretending that she doesn't have time to met you. This isn't necessarily a sign that it is over, but if you are used to meet her frequently then there is something wrong.
2. Eventually, when she decided to spend some time with you she keeps looking around to find something to do or someone else to talk to. However, when a woman is interested, she puts in the effort by giving you her full attention.
3. She's secretive and no longer wants to tell you where she has been or who was on the phone.
4. Don't forget that women love to talk. If she doesn't ask you questions and shows no interest in what you have to say and when you ask her questions she limits her answers to "yes" and "no" she has a problem. Can it be the relationship with you?
5. Is she causing arguments over stupid little things? If nothing you do or say isn't right anymore and all that goes wrong is your fault you can start to worry.
6. She refuses the presents you make. Women love to get presents, so if she turns yours down, she can feel guilty because she is thinking to break up with you, especially if you know she was about to buy that thing for herself.
7. She talks about divorce or break up of other people relationship, as a positive thing. Maybe a friend of her just has broke up with her boyfriend and now she is doing much better.
In the game of romance, few things are black and white. Most of the points above are assumptions based on commonly used techniques. There is room for interpretations and misunderstandings but all this can make you wonder if everything is ok and discuss the problems you might have.
i'm sorry for bringing up that matter to you earlier on. i couldnt keep it any longer. i know i shouldn't have brought up that matter on the night of our anniversary. but i've been keeping it for too long. i want you know to know how great was the impact on me. other than that, thanks for everything that you've done for me love. no words can describe how much i treasure you. love you so much darling. take care. =)
`Fydah.
Can you be good friends with an ex-lover? Firstly, the word 'lover' has many connotations and the answer may be different for a one-night stand. But what I believe if it's someone who spent a substantial portion of his/her life with, someone who have had a good relationship with, based on shared values, ideas and emotions, a healthy friendship is definitely possible even after they are no longer involved. This is possible because every relationship evolves. If both people concerned have the same level of understanding that they did when they were lovers, it can be used to establish a stable friendship. Of course, if there's any negativity from either side, being friends may not be possible, and that's sad.
When a man and woman relate, there's always a part that is sexual, small though it may be. In most relationships, you tend to suppress the attraction. But when you're friends with an ex, it's much easier to understand and accept this attraction as you've already experienced all there was to experience. In some cases, one person may feel it more than the other, but either way. I think it's much easier to talk such residual attraction through, as you both share a certain level of comfort. Communication is the basis of any relationship.
Even when you and your ex have new love interests in your life, communication is still the key. I believe, for the new relationship to work, you cannot hide your past. The attempt should be not to do things that you need to hide. And you have to resolve the level of importance you want to give your current lover and your ex. Your partner may be insecure, but then we're insecure about so many things in our life. For example, people do compromise their careers for their relationship. So you have to either talk things through with your partner or compromise on your friendship.
As for whether an ex can be a platonic friend who can casually rib you about your present relationship or relate well with your current lover, it's all about the different levels of sensitivity that various people display. The dynamics between your friend, your lover and you will play out according to each person's position in your respective relationships.
I don't think prespectives change depending on your gender. It's about what you believe is right and wrong. If the other person has had a very similar upbringing (although that would be rare), he or she is likely to emote, perceive situations, react and resolve issues just like you would.
